Welcome to Dr. Devika Chopra's Hope Clinic. Creating Happiness is her aim which she aspires for all her patients. She works with tremendous passion, dedication, love and team spirit for the goal of making your dreams come true and creating happiness in your life.
Hope Clinic is dedicated center to address women's health issues pertaining to areas like Fibroids, Infertility, Polycystic Ovaries, Endometriosis, Pelvic Infections and Repeated Pregnancy Losses. Dr. Devika Chopra has been providing dedicated services in the area of women's health with specialty in the management of infertility and gynecological issues for over half a decade.
The thought of never being able to look a child in the eye and see a part of you looking back can be heart breaking. Many couples will struggle with fertility issues when trying to become parents. The medical aspect of infertility at times overlooks the emotional ordeal a couple endures during the journey of infertility treatment….
Feeling as if they are all alone, couples struggle with wondering if they will ever be able to conceive. They beat themselves up thinking that it is something they are doing wrong, or that they are being punished for something. They feel as though they are failing their job of being a man or a woman and/ or failing their role in the relationship with their spouse.
Common emotions that the sub-fertile woman may feel include anxiousness, anger, depression, sadness and hopelessness.
Infertility also usually leads to a decrease in self esteem. Many women become sad or jealous when they hear that someone else they know got pregnant or if they see other pregnant women out in public.
Each month as they renew their energy to try again they begin to feel anxious, wondering if this could be the lucky month. Then at the first sign of not feeling well she runs to her stock of pregnancy tests only to be deflated by the reading of the results. She feels angry that there is nothing she can seem to do to make it happen. Often the hurting comes off at her husband as anger, when she’s really just frustrated. This leads to stress in their relationship.
Men are often forgotten about when it comes to the emotional impact of infertility, but they also suffer. They do feel the same pain and wonder if it is something they are doing wrong. They often question their manhood. Most men feel as though they are somehow letting their wives down. They are used to fixing things that go wrong and feel frustrated that this is one thing that they can’t fix, no matter how well their tool chest is stocked.
Although most women choose to keep their emotional pain to themselves, it’s not the healthiest thing to do. They may feel they don’t want to burden others with their problems or to appear weak. But keeping it bottled up inside only makes things worse, you need an outlet for that pain.
Expressing emotions There are several things you can do express those feelings in a healthy way:
Remember, your doctor can be your biggest confidante and help you in this journey…
Why is that as soon as you get married or settle down , people start asking you about having children? They will see the two of you together and automatically assume that you are planning to fill your home with the pitter-patter of little feet. These same people will poke and prod into your personal life, suddenly asking you about your sex life just to see if little ones will be on the way soon. Talk about pressure!!!! Then, when you do decide its time, the same people will pat your belly every time they see you with that inquisitive look on their faces that makes you want to slap them.
Even today, there are many people from all generations that just cannot understand that some people may not want to be parents, right away or at all. It is often mothers and fathers that unwittingly put pressure on their kids to ‘have me some grandchildren while I’m young enough to enjoy them.’. All of this pressure can lead to other pressures as well. What if things don’t go exactly as planned? What if you don’t get pregnant right away, or even at all? What if you need to seek some sort of fertility help? Should you be forced to share all of this very personal and emotional information with every one you meet? Absolutely not…. Furthermore, the pressure and stress about whether and when to have children can actually place so much stress on a couple that conception can be hindered due to anxiety. It is proven medical knowledge that excess stress can trigger hormonal responses that make conception difficult. There are also plenty of women who tried for years to conceive, through hardships and turmoil only to give up and then’ find themselves pregnant.
As a woman, the pressure is often worse. Your neighbuors and co-workers, all with children, will both curse and bless you for your non-child status. So many assume that the desire to have children is born in every woman, and that just because you are reaching a ‘certain age’ or have been married for 5 years, the urge should be hitting you as well. They forget that you may want to have children and your spouse is the one holding things up. They also may not realize that the dream of having children is something you have been working on, unsuccessfully for some time now. It can also be difficult to explain to others, while being believed that you just aren’t ready for children. And your own mom definitely doesn’t want to hear that.
Still, you have to wonder how many people have children, just because they feel the pressure to get pregnant. It is as if getting pregnant automatically earns you a membership in some restrictive club. No matter what you have accomplished, others cannot seem to see you as successful until the little pink line appears. This societal pressure is inherent, passed on from generations and very difficult to ignore. The truth is however, that it shouldn’t force you into pregnancy and childbirth.
The worst thing is when you do decide the time is right, that everyone feels entitled to knowing everything about you. Many women bring this on themselves, posting on Facebook when they ovulate with cute little wink, winks afterwards. Others however are just bombarded by people invading their space. Suddenly, the pressure of getting pregnant becomes common knowledge and every one (including you) is counting the days or months that go by without success. Suddenly, you feel like a failure and want even more desperately to conceive, feeling pressured by the world closing in around you. Pregnancy, getting pregnant and your feelings about having children (or not) are personal. You are entitled to keep them that way.
One of the best pieces of advice you can adhere to when it comes to the pressures of getting pregnant is keep the information on a need to know only basis. This way, people won’t constantly be talking to you about it, asking you prying questions and putting heavy pressure on you. Sure, they don’t mean it. Yet when its time to get pregnant in your life, you need to feel as relaxed as possible and free of outside pressures and expectations. Whether things go as perfectly planned or not; your decision not to tell the world your business is a good one. There is even an old wives tale that forbids telling anyone until you reach the second trimester. Perhaps it is for good reason.
There is plenty of pressure to get pregnant. It comes from all around you, and sometimes even from within. What many people forget is that there is no magical formula for deciding when the time is right or not. Plenty of people try to take things into their own hands only to find a different plan exists for them. When it comes to getting pregnant, you should learn to let go, have faith, and keep your eyes open for all the signs that the time is right for you. The best response to those pressuring you is probably no response! Smile coyly, wink, and keep believing that when the time for you to become a mother is right’ you will know! And it won’t be because people are pressuring you to do so.
Very nice n satisfactory.doctor is very knowledgeable and courteous. Saw me in time and answered all my queries. Would definitely recommend
The doctor is extremely warm, cooperative and updated with the latest technical knowledge and equipment. She is available for queries and communication 24/7 and has immense patience. Though new in this field I am confident she will make a place of grace for herself in just no time.
The experience was just what I needed – no judgements and no pressure. The doctor is very gentle and also caters to the needs to her patients excellently. I am delighted to have met her and started my treatment.
Dr. Devika is great with patients and puts you at complete ease. I instantly felt very comfortable around her – which is not always easy to find, especially with a gynaec. She makes an effort to understand your circumstances well, and tailors her treatment accordingly. She’s meticulous and also responds very promptly to any queries or difficulties one may face. I’d strongly recommend Dr. Devika.
Dr Devika is humble and extremely cooperative. She is very knowledgeable person. She didn’t hurry up and very patient. Her very friendly nature makes a patient easy to explain the problem.she attained my query 24/7. She is extremely pleasant and courteous… Very well equipped clinic. I have never seen a doctor like her….
The doctor was very courteous and knowledgeable. Answered my queries completely and simplified my issues. She didn’t hurry up and was very patient. I went for a particular issue but I felt like I had a thorough gynaec evaluation . I will be visiting her again and will recommend her to my family and friends.